Does anyone have any perspectives, or resources that they can suggest that might help? That really helped and the fact that I realized that I was about to lose it and I needed to reign that in. When it comes to lacking empathy for others, it's hard not to split-- especially since us BPD's are extreme empaths and tend to be strong advocates for social justice. I’m bad at relationships myself, but I suppose you just have to accept that you just won’t agree, and that’s okay. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Seeking Support .



While it doesn't work everytime, it has worked sometimes. BPD relationships shift between highs and lows. A place for those who have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) (also known as EUPD [Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder])--, their family members and friends, and anyone else who is interested in learning more about the disorder. Wishing you the best! I don’t think he’s evil I just then wonder how are we married. How do you stop splitting?

Just stopping myself, waiting for that switch to go back before I continue my life.

Thanks. I got dumped last week and holy fuck, one minute I want to go stand outside her window with a boom box, and the next minute I want to blackmail her. How do you manage splitting? And even if not in the moment, it does after the fact when the outburst is over and you can begin to sort of level out. We agree on some things but not others and it’s hard not to split on him when it happens. It's remarkable how effective just recognizing that you are having judgmental thoughts is to deescalating in triggering situations. For example, a “bad” person does “bad” things, a “good” person does “good” things. It’s difficult because we parent and I am very social justice oriented and I am trying to raise my kids in this way. With splitting, there is no gray area. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Acknowledge you are making a judgement, but don't judge yourself for it, and then let it pass. Anyway, I don’t want to think these thoughts about him because he’s overall good to me and people.
Then I went to my room for a couple of hours and did work.

I don't recommend trying to achieve this state as it is aching to apathy.

I don't want to do anything stupid though, and people at work all think I've been acting strange lately, so I've just been hiding in my house this week. Splitting is defined as the failure in a person’s thinking to bring together the dichotomy of both positive and negative qualities of the self and others into a cohesive, realistic whole. Thanks.

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It's so obvious that it's like watching a switch flip in my brain, but even when I know it's happening I can't figure out how to mitigate it.

To be honest I've lost all excitement, I don't really care about anything anymore and that has helped me slow down and think things through. Press J to jump to the feed.

By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. Write what you like and dislike about your husband down. When you feel like that, come here to vent and you can PM me. If you live with borderline personality disorder (BPD), “splitting” may be something you can relate to. These reminders are helpful. And I commend you for that. Any techniques you want to share? I only just began DBT about a month or two ago, but my therapist tells me to "check the facts" when I begin to split or dissociate. With my clients, I have found that merely being aware of a behavior is 95% of the battle.

I need a vacation.