Today I’m talking about how thinking in extreme traps us in fear and shame cycles.
And perhaps it started out that way. Borderline Perfectionism Is Another Type of Black-and-White Thinking Perfectionism can make you feel depressed, frustrated, anxious, and even angry, especially if you constantly criticize yourself for not doing a good enough job after spending a lot of time and effort on a task.
I need limits. While everyone experiences black and white thinking to some extent, extreme black and white thinking can also be a symptom of mental illness. I have a difficult time seeing the “gray” area. If someone with a cold or a stomach bug is in the office, I am 100% sure that their germs must be on the office door handle. Sometimes I need to remember it’s okay to be imperfect. (2018, September 18). Last time we talked about perfectionism and the ways to overcome it. It appears you entered an invalid email. And perhaps it started out that way. This site complies with the HONcode standard for With age we gain a certain amount of experience and rationality in actions, with the absurd uncompromising attitude fading in the background. I hear you and everything you say. More likely yes than no, as black-and-white thinking can affect those practicing it quite destructively. And I didn’t want it to be perfect anymore. h�ܖok�0ƿ�}�4wIcA It’s ironic that black-and-white thinking at a young age helps to reach certain heights, to assert yourself, to achieve things that might not be typical of this age. Those black-and-white thinkers that grew out of their pants but never stopped their crusade against the rest of the world are risking turning into stubborn fools.
I even struggle with being perfect with my pets, to keep them happy because on the inside I’m so unhappy. In my life, I didn’t realize or recognize this much in my life... until I started doing very active and regular thought work and now I’m really seeing it and it’s impact on every area of my life and I’m working to change it... but it’s hard. Whitney is a writer, blogger, and social media enthusiast. ❤️ Thank you for sharing your experience! Perfectionism feeds on itself, it actually gets you further away from perfect (as you stated). My BPD perfectionism also stems from a lack of self and the need to fill myself up by doing. 5. But they can still be helped. I find it hard to even finish a piece sometimes because of an inner voice constantly criticizing, Watching this video gives me strength and hope. I personally try to do these things so I am not failing. Otherwise, I’m going to struggle. Today our topic is black-and-white thinking, which is often confused with perfectionism.
But I don’t see the middle ground. So most of the time, all I know how to do things is either “perfect” or “fail.” Until someone else says to me, “That’s good enough,” I’m stuck.
This is the reason why perfectionists are often referred to as “smartened up” black-and-white thinkers.
Today our topic is black-and-white thinking, which is often confused with perfectionism. What Makes a Good Borderline Personality Disorder Therapist? here.
My internal world felt very out of control, but obsessing over weight and physical appearance felt like something within my grasp I could control. Examples of perfectionistic thinking: Black-and-white thinking (e.g. And the sooner this is done, the better, to make sure the accumulated negative experience does not turn a passionate black-and-white thinker into a boring perfectionist.
Retrieved All this means things wouldn’t be perfect so I do everything I can to make them perfect, including compulsions that, paradoxically, make my life far from perfect.
Interestingly enough, some of the most out-of-control periods of my life were also accompanied by my most intense periods of achievement. Although my parents and husband aren’t too sure, I believe this also rings true in the way I think. These notions, however, are quite different.
( Log Out / If I see something that looks like sick on the pavement, it is 100% sick unless scientifically proven otherwise. 2020 Mighty Proud Media, Inc. All Rights Reserved. You are not going to be asked to give up your standards altogether, just to loosen them a little so there are fewer costs associated with pursuing them. The standpoint of a black-and-white thinker is unequivocal and categorical. But on the inside and emotionally, I was really struggling.